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What’s Your Survivor Love Style?
Our quiz analyzes how traumatic childhood experiences may have shaped how you show up in your relationships
BODY THAT REMEMBERS HUNGER
You grew up in a world where there was never enough—never enough money for basics, never enough food in the fridge, never enough certainty about where you'd sleep next week 🏠. While other kids worried about which snacks to choose, you learned to calculate whether your family could afford milk and bread this week. You became incredibly skilled at making something from nothing, stretching resources in ways that would amaze most people, and reading the subtle signs that money was getting tight before anyone said a word 🎯.
This survival strategy gave you remarkable resourcefulness and resilience, but it came at a profound cost: your nervous system learned to "store scarcity" like a biological alarm system that never fully turns off ⏰. Your body developed an incredible ability to survive on less than most people could imagine, making you exceptionally generous with others and skilled at spotting genuine need versus want. But your nervous system still lives in survival mode, creating guilt, anxiety and physical tension
every time you spend money on yourself or try to enjoy abundance.
Now, even with financial security, you flinch at grocery store totals and hoard "just in case" 🛒—because your body remembers hunger it can't forget. Sometimes that internal voice whispers "Who do you think you are to afford that?". Other times, you throw all caution to the wind and splurge recklessly. Both extremes—the hoarding and the splurging—are manifestations of scarcity mindset
, not abundance, and your body still prepares for the winter like a bear who knows it is sure to come ❄️.