THE ACCOMMODATOR

Growing up, you learned that your needs came second—or didn't matter at all 🥺. Maybe your parent was overwhelmed, struggling with their own issues, or simply expected you to be the "easy" child who never caused problems. You discovered that love felt more secure when you minimized your needs, wants and hurts, when you anticipated what others needed before they even asked, and when you could adapt to any situation without complaint ✨. Your ability to read people's needs and accommodate them became your superpower—you could sense exactly what would make someone comfortable and deliver it perfectly 💫.

But now you find yourself habitually prioritizing others' needs, preferences, and comfort at the expense of your own 🔄. In relationships, you automatically defer to your partner's wants—where to eat, what to watch, how to spend weekends, even major life decisions. You feel responsible for your partner's emotions and comfort, while somehow accepting that they don't have to do the same for you 💔. When conflict arises, your instinct is to immediately adjust yourself to fix the tension rather than advocate for what you actually want or need.

You've become so skilled at accommodation that you've lost touch with your own preferences 🤔. Sometimes you genuinely don't know what you want because you're so used to wanting whatever makes others happy. The exhausting irony is that while you bend over backwards to keep others comfortable, you rarely feel truly seen or cared for in return, because accommodating has become so automatic that others don't realize the sacrifice you're constantly making 😔.