💸 What it means to have grown up with constant fights about money
Growing up with constant fights about money meant your home felt like an emotional warzone where financial stress poisoned every interaction.
You may have learned to read the room like a survival skill—every slammed door, hissed whisper, or tense silence signaled another round of battles was coming. Money wasn't just currency in your house; it was ammunition. You might have watched your parents transform from loving partners into hostile strangers whenever bills arrived or purchases were questioned, leaving you caught in the crossfire of accusations and denials.
You may have developed an extraordinary ability to detect brewing tension and defuse situations before they exploded, making you hypervigilant to others' emotional states. But this same survival mechanism might now leave you either avoiding all conflict or exploding with months of stored frustration when disagreements arise. Your nervous system learned that relationships equal unpredictability—that peaceful moments are just temporary ceasefires before the next financial crisis erupts.